![]() ![]() “Suitable match required for Jain boy who was born in Australia. “Well settled Punjabi family in Sydney looking for professionally qualified, very well settled boy for daughter, slim, beautiful 5’4”. #ARRANGED MARRIAGE MATCHMAKER PROFESSIONAL#The boy preferred to be 26 to 31, should have a professional job and be Australian citizen - please respond with photo and details.” “Looking for a Punjabi boy for our daughter, 29 years old. #ARRANGED MARRIAGE MATCHMAKER FULL#Australian citizen Jat Sikh bachelor boy with professional qualifications only - apply with full resume and photos.” ![]() “Seeking suitable match for extremely beautiful, tall, slim Jat Sikh girl never married, 20 years. She said a woman who meets a man and brings him home for parent’s approval can take years of negotiation between a bride, groom and both sets of parents. ![]() “If things go south in an arranged marriage, both families step in to help as they had a hand in it, so there is a lot of security and support, and because of that, we have a very low divorce rate.” Indian couple Ruhi and Rashesh Patel share a dance on their wedding day. “I know people who have had love marriages that haven’t worked, and they say if they had their time again they would have an arranged marriage,” she said. Ms Tuxen said while it did not match up to the romantic ideal of “true love” the whole idea of an arranged marriage was to connect people well suited to each other. So too in the Greek community, where the practice would be rare in Australia today. Other communities who traditionally embraced arranged marriages have largely moved on from the practice amid the dominant Western culture of Australia.Īlthough parents in the Chinese community may still try and introduce potential spouses or give advice on marriage decisions, arranged marriage is in decline. You spend so many years raising a child you want to make sure they don’t get into a relationship with someone who influences them in the wrong direction.” “It is families coming together to make the best suitor for their child. “An essential condition of an Islamic marriage is consent - without consent, there is no marriage.īassam Ibrahim and Basima Ramadan on their wedding day. “This is the norm among religious families, but there also may be instances if they meet at work or at religious gatherings, in which case they come and visit the woman’s father or brother or Uncle and formally ask for her hand,” he said. “Face to face talking would be in proximity of other family members and if they believe there may be a workable relationship, they talk about hopes and future aspirations, and everything works out, they get married.”Īrranged marriages, not to be mistaken with forced marriages, must be consensual, and as Mr Trad said are predominantly successful because the match is based on shared ideals, values and traditions. “Then if there is, they can talk to each other, and if they think they are compatible they keep talking and may get engaged. “If someone is of marrying age then someone in the family tries to find someone suitable and arranges a meeting between the three parties to see if there is any interest,” he said. Muslim community spokesman Keysar Trad said arranged marriages also remained a common way for Lebanese people living in Sydney to meet and form relationships. ![]() There are also websites, but meeting through family networks is the most common way.”īassam Ibrahim and Basima Ramadan had an arranged marriage 29 years ago and are still happily married with 4 children. “Then there are professional matchmakers who can look for everything from religion, language, colour of skin, education levels, profession, income, vegetarian, or nonsmoker. “If you look at the newspapers in India, there are hundreds of groom and bride wanted ads printed every day, with parents placing the ads. “The other way is their husbands have come to Australia as students and then gain permanent residency through work, and come back to India to search for a wife, which is arranged marriage in more of a traditional sense. “Generally speaking, there are probably two ways an Indian woman living in Australia would get married - the first is they meet an Indian man in Australia, fall in love and negotiate with the families to agree - that is what we are calling an arranged love marriage, and it is blending the two eastern and western ideals of marriage,” she said. Picture: Jake NowakowskiĪNU PhD candidate from the Research School of Humanities and the Arts, Nonie Tuxen, said an overwhelming majority - up to 90 per cent - of Indian descendants living in Australia had arranged marriages. Ruhi and Rashesh Patel on their wedding day. ![]()
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